"Grief isn't just sadness—it's a full-body takeover. It's the storm that hits when love has nowhere left to land."
In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker takes you back to the foundation of it all: understanding what grief actually is. For too long, we've been fed clichés about "moving on" or "staying strong," while no one ever taught us how to live through the ache.
Sharon unpacks the real definition of grief—the kind you feel in your bones. She shares what she wishes she'd known when her nephew Austin died, and why understanding the truth about grief changes everything. This isn't theory—it's lived experience, raw and unfiltered.
You'll learn why grief isn't just emotional, but physical. Why it feels unnatural even though it's the most natural thing in the world. And why no two people grieve the same, even when they're mourning the same person.
By the end of this episode, you'll stop asking "what's wrong with me?" and start realizing: nothing is wrong with you. Your grief is proof that you loved deeply.
What You'll Learn in This Episode
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Why grief is normal and natural—and what that really means
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The truth about conflicted feelings and why you can miss someone and still feel relief they're gone
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How grief becomes physical, showing up in your body as much as in your heart
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Why your grief will never look like anyone else's
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How naming your grief gives you power to begin healing
Homework for You
Print this out and do it this week:
Write down three moments when grief hits you the hardest.
Is it when you wake up? When you reach for the phone to call them? When silence gets too loud?
Then, for each moment, write one sentence starting with:
"This is grief."
"This is grief when I reach for the phone."
"This is grief when I cook their favorite meal."
"This is grief when I laugh and feel guilty right after."
Naming it helps you see it for what it is—love looking for a place to land.
Resources + Next Steps
📘 Download your free eBook: clickhereforhope.com
🎥 Get the video series "This Is Grief" – self-guided lessons that walk you through Sharon's full teaching on the definition of grief.
🧠 Join Grief Study Hall – live support with Sharon every Tuesday at 1 PM CST.