Episode Summary:
Welcome to Healing Starts With the Heart, the podcast where grief meets resilience.
In this episode, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker gets raw and real about the unspoken chaos of grief—what it feels like in your body, why your mind can't stop replaying the moment it all changed, and how society leaves us completely unprepared to deal with it.
From the hospital diagnosis to the late-night phone call that split life into "before and after," Sharon lays out what really happens when grief hits—and why it's not weakness, madness, or something you just "get over." It's a full-body, full-heart experience that demands to be felt.
If you've ever wondered "What the hell is happening to me?" this episode is your answer: you're not broken—you're grieving.
🧠 Key Points Discussed:
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The moment everything changes: the call, the diagnosis, the hospital, the knock at the door.
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Why grief is a full-body experience—chest tightness, heavy head, shallow breath, restless nervous system, twisted stomach, sleepless nights.
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The battle between your logical mind (searching for answers) and your heart (knowing the truth).
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How grief shows up in everyday life—seeing their favorite cereal in the store, picking up the phone to call them, lying awake at night unable to breathe.
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The danger of performing instead of grieving—wearing a smile, staying busy, saying "I'm fine," while silently falling apart.
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Why society has left us unprepared: no one showed us how to grieve, only how to hide.
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Grief isn't just sadness—it's anger, numbness, confusion, shutdown, and longing all at once.
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Pain is not the problem; pretending is.
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Surviving grief is not about fixing or outrunning it—it's about one breath, one moment, one day at a time.
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Tools Sharon shares in That Grief Sht* ebook + video series:
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Why grief feels like it does in the body
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What it means to "be strong" vs. fall apart
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Allowing emotions (anger, numbness, tears) instead of suppressing them
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Answering the question: Am I crazy or am I normal?
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📓 Journal Questions for Reflection:
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What was the moment my life split into "before" and "after"?
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How does grief show up in my body right now?
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Where am I performing instead of allowing myself to feel?
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What everyday moments trigger my grief—and what do they teach me about my love?
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How have I silenced my emotions to comfort others?
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What might it look like to take grief one moment, one breath, at a time?
🩶 Conclusion:
Grief is not weakness. It's not madness. It's love with nowhere to go.
You were never taught how to grieve—only how to perform, suppress, and "be strong." But pretending suffocates the heart. Healing starts when you stop performing and let yourself feel.
So if you're exhausted from holding it all together, if your nervous system is on fire and your heart is begging to be heard—this episode is your reminder: you are not broken. You are grieving. And grieving is natural.
One moment, one breath, one day at a time—you will survive this.
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