You Knew How to Grieve When You Came Here

You Didn’t Forget How to Grieve

You weren’t born needing instructions for grief. You were born knowing exactly what to do with pain. You cried when it hurt. You screamed when you were scared. You reached out when you needed comfort.

No hesitation. No shame. No filter. Your emotional instincts were intact, alive, and fully present. That was grief. That was healing. That was emotional wisdom in its purest form.

You didn’t ask if you were crying too much.
You didn’t worry if your sadness made someone else uncomfortable.
You didn’t hide your tears.
You didn’t apologize for your needs.
You felt your way through. Your emotions flowed, and your body responded.

That’s what grieving used to look like — before the world got to you.

Even now, your body still holds that ancient intelligence. Your eyes blink. Your lungs rise and fall. Your nails grow. Your hair grows. Your skin renews. Your heart, even after trauma and breaking, can begin to mend itself.

Why We Forget How to Grieve

Somewhere along the way, you were told:

• Not to cry

• Not to be too sensitive

• Not to talk about it

• Not to burden others

You were told to keep it together, be grateful, focus on the positive, and be strong.

And worse? You were rewarded for it. You were praised for smiling through pain, applauded for going back to work too soon, admired for not falling apart. What the world celebrated was not strength — it was performance. Your ability to bury your pain so no one else had to see it.

So you learned to perform, to hide, to grieve in silence.

And now, when the ache creeps in, when the tears fall unexpectedly, when your body shakes without warning, you think something is wrong.

You’re not broken.

Grief Is Your Body’s Wisdom

Grief is not too big for you.
Grief is not failure.
Grief is your body honoring what mattered.
It’s your soul’s call for space, truth, and release.
It’s not a flaw in the system — it is the system.

Grief is how your heart tells the story of love, loss, and longing.
It doesn’t need explanation. It needs to be felt.

You don’t need a five-step model.
You don’t need someone else to tell you what’s normal.
You don’t need a therapist to translate your own heart.

What you need is space. Stillness. To be believed. Room to remember.

You are not grieving wrong. You are grieving in a world that taught you to doubt the very thing you were born knowing how to do.

Coming Back to Your Truth

Your grief has always known the way.
It’s waiting for you to stop performing, stop managing, stop holding back.

It’s waiting for you to come back to the truth —
the one you were born with, the one you’ve carried all along.

You knew how to grieve when you came here.
And you still do.